When I was transitioning from marriage to separation, to divorce, it took a toll on my physical and mental body. I didn't necessarily have a lot of people to talk to about what I was going through and so for much of the emotional process, I was alone.
When I grew up, I didn't have the talks about boys, or relationships, or partnerships that some girls have with their mothers. We just weren't close in that way. I didn't grow up dating nor did I have the experience in relationships that some girls should have
Why is it that we don't talk about the hard stuff in life until after we are healed? Why is it that we don't share the hard truths while in the midst of heartache or despair? And why is it then, that we do not share our most vulnerable moments with one another while we are in those moments of raw emotion?
When I went through my divorce it was at a young age. At that time, my partner and I were the first ones of our group of friends to go through such a life event and I don't really know that many of our friends knew how to react. Some stayed friends, some picked sides but overall, and over the years, a distance grew.
In times of darkness, hurt and loss it can be extremely lonely and difficult. It can feel as though the weight of the world is sitting on our shoulders with no one to help carry the heavy burden. No one to listen. No one to comfort. No one to say, "It hurts now but it's going to be ok".